What the heck is up with people not calling you back?

[severinsteel]

I am getting a little tired of people I think to be my friends not calling me back. Now, this is not an issue with everyone of course. I have friends who will almost always return my call within the hour. But people who consistently wait for a week before they bother returning your call, if at all drive me crazy. Unless there is a family emergency or something of dire consequence, there is no excuse for not calling a good friend back in a reasonable time frame. I will MAKE time for people I care about. I am a full time grad. student and I do a lot of work outside of school, and I don't have an issue with not calling people back. I guess the people who are too busy must not really care much about our friendship. Sorry for venting, but anyone else have this problem? It seems to be a trend these days.

[candh]

Do you want the nice fluffy opinion...or the Adam Carolla version?

[CharAznable]

Have you tried tweeting them?

[seafoamer]

I hate phones.

[Tonealicious]

Maybe they don't want to speak to you as much as you do them.

[Curt]

Have you tried tweeting them?

Tweeting is for birds.
People talk.

[Guitar Josh]

Maybe they don't want to speak to you as much as you do them.

Your friends just aren't that into you :crazy

[jcoggins7]

I've felt this way before, but usually with females, which is ironic, because I thought they loved talking on the phone.

[JRDill]

I've felt this way before, but usually with females, which is ironic, because I thought they loved talking on the phone.

LOL

THIS!:agree

[GoofyDawg]

Dude, I've learned to accept it. My best friend of over 30 years has been that way. You just deal with it and move on. The only time I've gotten regular contact from him was when he was going through his divorce and needed some alcoholic forgetfulness potions or since then, when he was in between girlfriends. But when he's hooked up, forget it. :)

You could just go through your address book until you connect with someone who'll talk to you... :)

[Atomic Punk]

Damn, talk about 'needy'. Sorry. I'm lucky if I get time to take a dump, let alone return a phone call. If they say it's important, I'll call back ASAP. If they don't specify, I'll get to it when I can get to it.

[Brazen]

You mean y'all got friends ?? :BluesBros

My "friends" only come or call when they want something.

[John Bell]

I'll get back to you on this................

[jnug]

my friends do it to me to, but it doesn't bother me. people have their own lives and get busy and don't have time to call you back, and some people just hate to talk on the phone, and some are scattered brained and forget to call people back, i know i've done that before. my one buddy does construction and has a house full of kids and he's tired all the time so he doesn't talk on the phone that much. so it's more like i talk to him when it's good for him instead of when it's good for me, no biggie though.

[Dr. Tweedbucket]

Tweeting is for birds.
People talk.



+1 :drink

[shredhead7]

Damn, talk about 'needy'. Sorry. I'm lucky if I get time to take a dump, let alone return a phone call. If they say it's important, I'll call back ASAP. If they don't specify, I'll get to it when I can get to it.


I am in the same boat...I'm the IT person at work, so non stop bitch sessions at work. I own three rentals, so lots of calls about the neighbor did this, or mysteriously the faucet broke out of the wall that. My sister is a raging drunk, so LOTS of woes me, my life sucks calls. My parents call every few days. My live in girlfriend likes to work out together, eat together. After all of that, I'm lucky if I can squeeze in the ONE thing that I want to do, which is play my guitar.

It sucks that I've cut pretty much every one else out of my life, but I just don't have the time any more for any one else. I really do not understand people that claim that they are bored or that actually have the time and desire to make a phone call. Life is short, get busy.

[ImmortalSix]

It's the quantification of everything.

Have you seen Facebook's "Like" button? Now people can quantify their esteem for an idea without expressing anything at all.

I weep for the future.

I blame teenagers. :rotflmao

[Luke]

Maybe they don't want to speak to you as much as you do them.


:agree:agree:agree



Or they don't value the relationship as much as you do.

[pickaguitar]

Dude, I've learned to accept it. My best friend of over 30 years has been that way. You just deal with it and move on. The only time I've gotten regular contact from him was when he was going through his divorce and needed some alcoholic forgetfulness potions or since then, when he was in between girlfriends. But when he's hooked up, forget it. :)

You could just go through your address book until you connect with someone who'll talk to you... :)
I'm that guy (minus the alcohol forgetfulness)

[matt]

If you call me and don't leave a message, I'm not going to bother returning your call unless I was expecting your call. If you don't leave a message, I assume it isn't important. If you leave me a message and say "call me back as soon as you get this", I will. If you say "call me back when you get a chance", I will when it is convenient for me or I feel like talking on the phone.

My Mom has a bad habit of calling me 2 times in a row quickly while I'm at work, then doing the same to my wife (while she's at work teaching), then calling me back and leaving me a huffy message saying "This is your mother, call me back". When I do call her back, it's something completely ridiculous that she wants, then goes into her guilt trip mode saying "what if it was an emergency?" I always tell her that if she continues to call me repeatedly for things that aren't emergencies, when she does have an emergency, she's going to be out of luck because she calls me for unimportant things.

My mom is the type of person who doesn't care what is going on, if her phone rings, she HAS to answer it. We had her over for dinner and during the middle of dinner, her phone rings, she answers it, walks outside, and stays on the phone for 20 minutes. She just doesn't understand how rude that really is.