"My guitar player"

[shark_bite]

Does it weird you out when people call you that?

It weirds me out a little.

[The Kid]

Nah. Not really. Unless they're clutching me as they say it...

[stevorc321]

Yep - a singer we were tring out for a bit kept saying that. Weird.

[KRosser]

No, I find it endearing most of the time

[Stratobuc]

No, I find it endearing most of the time

This

[sonhenry]

if they're putting gigs on my diary, they can call me bob for all I care...

[coreybox]

Most people here say "my bassist" or "my drummer"

[Dexter.Sinister]

No, its sweet. I call my colleagues "my _____" also. Very common to speak like that in France, also (putting "my" before somebody's first name).

But I think I get what you're saying.

DS

[MudPies]

I'm a fan of our guitar/bass/keys player.

[GCDEF]

Doesn't bother me.

[Rayneman]

I always say "our band," "our singer" etc...

Similarly, I say "our house," or "our bedroom" where my wife (and her family) would say "my house" and "my bedroom."

Therefore, since I do not believe that my wife is trying to imply complete ownership of these things (hmmmm) it doesn't bother me though I think it does sound a bit wierd.

[MichelleTele]

I am called "my *something else*" usually...

[Tuberattler]

As long as it's used to speak of some high praise I don't mind, but turn it around to diss me and you'll get PUNKED!!

[SpaceFlunky]

Is that my drummer? Why don't you get your arse down here?


Don't ever call me "your drummer" again. You're my ****ing singer.









"our" drummer got mad at me after i called him "my drummer" one time. So now to try and not offend him i call him "the drummer"
I dont know what the big deal is. I mean i just want to play music.

[shark_bite]

Well... I play with one guy who's also a pretty good friend, and if we're out somewhere completely outside of the musical thing I still get introduced (usually to friends of girls he's taken an interest in) that way. It must be part of the "hey I'm in a band" mentality. But there is also has a weird air of subordination... "this is my employee" sort of. Couldn't it just be "we play in a band together" or something?

[Phil M]

No, I find it endearing most of the time

Same here. I don't think or worry too much about stuff like this; I don't think a ton of thought goes into it on the other end either.

It's probably just easier for somebody to say 'my guitar player' than 'the guitar player in the band I play in'

[KRosser]

Well... I play with one guy who's also a pretty good friend, and if we're out somewhere completely outside of the musical thing I still get introduced (usually to friends of girls he's taken an interest in) that way. It must be part of the "hey I'm in a band" mentality. But there is also has a weird air of subordination... "this is my employee" sort of. Couldn't it just be "we play in a band together" or something?

I find it kind of charming because everyone I play with knows I'm in
a dozen other bands, being a freelancer and all...

[jazzgtrl4]

I used to play with a Kenny G sax player that we called Kenny F who you used to say that when he would talk to a client. At first i thought it was weird but he filled up my calendar so i didnt care.

[ScottR]

Doesn't bother me at all

[jaydub69]

The first time I heard that was from "my drummer". I expected it from the Singer/songwriter, but not from him. Band mate is probably more accurate.
Still it was fine even though it was in a public place and everyone in earshot turned to look at me. Like being a guitarist is cause for celebrity? If they only knew.

[travisvwright]

Does it wierd you out when people call you "my friend"? I supposed "a friend who is in the same small circle as me" would be more appropriate but longer.

[Ray Gianelli]

It doesn't bother me at all. But I do like to screw with our singer's mind a bit so the first time he referred to me as "his guitar player" I said "Ohhh, I LOVE being taken possession of by a big strong man!"

He's never said it again.

[NicDoak]

That always make it seem like the person saying "my" is employing the other guy as a sideman, or that they are just support for the person saying it.
I always say our.

[Bryan T]

My former guitar player is the one that stings.

[monty]

No, I find it endearing most of the time

Plus 1, unless they are patting me on the head while saying it.

[lpfella]

I started the same thread awhile back. It does bug me. But most people on TGP seemed fine with it.

[cheng&eng]

sorta makes me feel like chattel

[Tuberattler]

We are of a possessive lot.. if not then give away your gear.. but seriously it's usually a term of friendship/relationship, not really OWNERSHIP or this person is my beotch mentality.. lol!!

[Tuberattler]

sorta makes me feel like chattel


Are you not? :sarcasm

[T.Wesley]

Doesn't bother me at all. I say "my singer", "my bass player", and "my drummer" all the time.

When you're talking to somebody that knows you but doesn't know anybody else in your band, their only connection to that person is through you, so it's perfectly fine to say "my singer" or "my band".

--chiba

[The Golden Boy]

Yeah... about as much when they all refer to me as "my donkey hung lover."

[gixxerrock]

Normally I find it endearing, although sometimes it has grated on me, but that was more related to an abrasive singer-songwriter and the way he did it. With the people I play with now, it would never bother me.

[DrSax]

Same here. I don't think or worry too much about stuff like this; I don't think a ton of thought goes into it on the other end either.

It's probably just easier for somebody to say 'my guitar player' than 'the guitar player in the band I play in'

yep.

[lawrencedesigns]

Look at the alternatives. You could be referred to as "my accordion player."

[Hamp]

Look at the alternatives. You could be referred to as "my accordion player."

Or my tubist.

[rwijaya]

wow , it is weird, i am a band leader in one of the band i am forming here, but never mentioned "My . . . . . "

its always, like , "the musician that i play with . . . . " kind of referring. Although they will shows up whenever I have something scheduled at anytime.

its kind of weird using the expression, "My .... player" since i don't owned them, they are free to come and go.

[LPSlinger]

Doesn't bother me. To me it is shorthand for "My band mate who plays drums" or "My band mate who plays guitar".

[Phil M]

Yeah... about as much when they all refer to me as "my donkey hung lover."

DOH!

You made me LOL, Dave, truly you did. First I did this: :huh

Then: :rotflmao

Then more: :rotflmao :rotflmao :rotflmao

Then: :bonk

[funkycam]

nope. I like it.
as in "here is the check for my guitar player"

[Lucidology]

I am honored whenever someone speaks such kind words..

[snarkle]

At the moment, being in between bands, I'd be happy to be almost anybody's guitar player...

[ZachariahG]

i feel like if i'm being introduced to someone, i don't mind it, as long as they treat me like i have a real name, i would much rather be introduced like, "hey guys, this is my guitar player, Zach, " than "hey guys, this is my guitar player," make sense? but i suppose that if it's outside of that context, then, i do find it to be a compliment, that someone likes my playing enough to call me that, with no thought of someday looking for someone better.

[Dana Olsen]

I find it kind of charming because everyone I play with knows I'm in a dozen other bands, being a freelancer and all...That's what it's like for me too Ken.

Usually, if someone refers to me as "my guitar player" in a way that I find questionable or mildly offensive, or even if it gives too much of the wrong idea to another person, I say something like,

"Well, TONIGHT I am, anyway", or, "As long as your money's green I am", all said with a smile and a wink. I'm known to be light-hearted (GRIN), and I even usually respond to the question:

"Why are you playing with THIS band tonight?" with, "Just lucky, I guess", whether it's a real premium gig, OR a real dive gig. Sometimes I DO feel genuinely lucky to be playing the gig.

I seldom worry about it though, and all professional musicians know that having a thick skin and a civil tongue will help you out more times than it'll hurt you. For better or worse, I try to do my "talking" with my guitar - I've personally had better results doing that than using my mouth.

This post is in no way addressed to Shark Bite, the OP in this thread - I'm just discussing the subject that Shark Bite brought up in general terms.

In my opinion, Dana O.

PS One of the nicest compliments I ever received happened when I was playing with a well known pedal steel player one night. A fan asked him, " Who's your guitar player?"

He answered, "It's more like I'm HIS steel player." Made me feel so good I almost cried, really!

[Rasta1]

I was called "my elegant guitarplayer" once. I kinda liked that.

Now that I think about it I've been called alot worse things that had nothing to do with guitar playing.;)

[Ed DeGenaro]

When I'm paid...no matter.

[frank62]

Yeah... about as much when they all refer to me as "my donkey hung lover."
Yes but much better than "my hamster hung lover"

[Nonvintage]

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[sgsupremep90]

I actually have my own guitar player. Bought him on ebay. Keep him in a box in the closet. Bring him out for gigs. Works great, low maintenance.