Where do people meet people?

[GSHARP]

I'm 41, single, and I wanna meet new people. I hate bars, I go there when I gig, otherwise I can't stand them. And I wouldn't go out with a bar freak anyways. I wanna meet women not necessarily for sex, I'd like to spend some god time, outdoor activities, dinner, stuff like that. Sex would be the last thing on my mind, I just want to meet new people, intelligent, adult women, with whom I can have great conversations, and if it leads to more, so be it.

Where do you people go?

[Sanjuro]

Work.

[GSHARP]

Work.

Nah I did that already in the past, it never worked out the good way. I'd like it to be different this time.

[russiancrowe]

Church

[VicAjax]

people meeting people meeting places.

[Dr. Jimmy]

Book stores.

[Sanjuro]

Nah I did that already in the past, it never worked out the good way. I'd like it to be different this time.

I hear ya. I've done that in the past and it's risky. Especially if the person is clingy and you're not interested any more :hide2

[mannish]

I don't think everyone that goes to a bar is a bar freak. I would consider somewhere like a Bar and Grill type - Played one this weekend fine white table cloth dining in front - a pub in the back. I see a lot of people there have a nice dinner then have a drink in the pub before exiting

I am not talking about YOU but the problem with my friends who are seeking a mate do not know how to talk to women or how to break the ice

If someone likes music where can they go to see the music besides a bar..?

[mannish]

Join mensa

[coreybox]

If you want to meet people you'll like, you need to meet them at places you like going to.

This is a problem for my friends (kinda nerdy/losers), who are homebodies and don't like going out anywhere much. I got lucky and am marrying a girl I met in high school.

[LostInMs]

How about going back to college? Challenge your aging brain and meet lots of younger people.

Do they have junior colleges in Montreal?

[Teleplayer]

Join mensa


I thought this was mensa

[GSHARP]

I don't think everyone that goes to a bar is a bar freak. I would consider somewhere like a Bar and Grill type - Played one this weekend fine white table cloth dining in front - a pub in the back. I see a lot of people there have a nice dinner then have a drink in the pub before exiting

I am not talking about YOU but the problem with my friends who are seeking a mate do not know how to talk to women or how to break the ice

If someone likes music where can they go to see the music besides a bar..?


I'm fine with the "how to break the ice with women" part. Maybe I got burned with "bar freaks" I dunno, they all look and sound the same to me, I might be wrong but that's how I feel. When I say bars, I mean those awful dance clubs filled with those stereotyped women wearing all the same clothes and looking almost all the same. I'm no Brad Pitt but I'm no hunchback of Notre Dame, I'm a relatively good catch I think, it's just that I can't seem to go in the right places to meet. And I end up frustrated, blaming myself for not dating the right girls for me. I wanna break that pattern, ya know...

[clothwiring]

Online. I just got married on 5/28. We met online. Tons of freaks there too, but it's sorta fun figuring it all out.

[MrTAteMyBalls]

I'm 41, single, and I wanna meet new people. I hate bars, I go there when I gig, otherwise I can't stand them. And I wouldn't go out with a bar freak anyways. I wanna meet women not necessarily for sex, I'd like to spend some god time, outdoor activities, dinner, stuff like that. Sex would be the last thing on my mind, I just want to meet new people, intelligent, adult women, with whom I can have great conversations, and if it leads to more, so be it.

Where do you people go?

What do you mean, you people?

[tone4days]

match.com or similar

gonna take some effort to sort em out

good luck

[GSHARP]

Online. I just got married on 5/28. We met online. Tons of freaks there too, but it's sorta fun figuring it all out.

Yeah, online seems to be the "thing" nowadays...

I'm not in a rush and I have absolutely no NEED TO BE with someone, I wanna meet new peeps. I got a shitload of friends, most are married with kids, they can't go out as much as they could, family obligations - and I'm fine with that - so I'm not counting on my friends too much, I completely understand their situation.

[Jim S]

I'm 41, single, and I wanna meet new people. I hate bars, I go there when I gig, otherwise I can't stand them. And I wouldn't go out with a bar freak anyways. I wanna meet women not necessarily for sex, I'd like to spend some god time, outdoor activities, dinner, stuff like that. Sex would be the last thing on my mind, I just want to meet new people, intelligent, adult women, with whom I can have great conversations, and if it leads to more, so be it.

Where do you people go?
Common interests.

For women: online, yoga, hiking clubs, pet clubs, the supermarket, starbucks esp at lunchtime for the latter two.

[GSHARP]

What do you mean, you people?

I mean single guys about or around my age.

[Seegs]

Old married guy who used himself the same question years ago...no rules...don't rule anywhere and anything out and it never happens when you're looking for it...

so how does one not look for it when you want it...just keep busy doin what you love doin and someone will appear...

Chow,
Seegs

[Brad Scott]

Join clubs/activities you enjoy and meet people with similar interests there.

**Also, try meetup.com (http://www.meetup.com). Select your area and find groups doing things you're interested in. It's not just for singles, it's for general activities ... hiking, biking, golf, photography, beer, whatever you're interested in. Doesn't cost anything.

[1973Marshall]

It's really hard.

Though my friends don't necessarily have the best love lives (lol), I'd say its all over the map on how singles and people in general meet.

In LA meetup.com has become a popular way to make new activity partners and friends.

A lot of people I know end up online dating. I can tell you its hard to meet people in a huge place like LA- very hard.

[stratovarius]

www.meetup.com (http://www.meetup.com)

This is a great place to make friends in your area who share common interests.

[Sun Creature]

meetup.com

Don't waste your money on match.com and be careful with okcupid or plentyoffish.

[ACfixer]

Did you forget this is the internet? Only about a million online dating sites... plentyoffish is free but it wouldn't be my choice for quality women. E-harmony, Zoosk. ChristianCafe is good for those of the Christian faith, I met some really nice women there back in the early 2000's.

[GSHARP]

Old married guy who used himself the same question years ago...no rules...don't rule anywhere and anything out and it never happens when you're looking for it...

so how does one not look for it when you want it...just keep busy doin what you love doin and someone will appear...

Chow,
Seegs


You're right, I won't rule anywhere out. The thing is I am not looking to absolutely be with someone, I wanna meet women, take my time to know them. I'm not in a rush of any sort. And I'm keeping myself busy with all sorts of stuff, I'm always busy anyways.

[stellablue]

Sounds a little gay to me bro, but I'll play. :sarcasm Try the library, an upscale grocery store, the coffee shop side of Barnes and Noble Bookstore, a large church, join the local chapter of the Sierra Club, start a supper club for singles, take a cooking class at your local college, join a coed sports league like kickball.

[Beng2040]

Old married guy who used himself the same question years ago...no rules...don't rule anywhere and anything out and it never happens when you're looking for it...

so how does one not look for it when you want it...just keep busy doin what you love doin and someone will appear...

Chow,
Seegs

I find this to be absolutely true. Don't be consciously searching for someone and it will happen. You have to be patient, though, and that is tough.

Best of luck to you...I had a tough time with the very same thing for years; always playing bars and no interest in the women that inhabited them. Stopped worrying or feeling any sense of urgency, and it happened for me.

[GSHARP]

Sounds a little gay to me bro, but I'll play. :sarcasm Try the library, an upscale grocery store, the coffee shop side of Barnes and Noble Bookstore, a large church, join the local chapter of the Sierra Club, start a supper club for singles, take a cooking class at your local college, join a coed sports league like kickball.

Thx for taking part in the "gayness"!!!

[Scott Auld]

What do you mean, you people?

Clearly, he's referring to people who's balls were eaten by MrT.

[spakuloid]

Stick to the back streets and the whore houses...

[GSHARP]

Stick to the back streets and the whore houses...

Hey thx for the advice but I'll pass... Not my thing!!

[Gnarlly]

I will give my 2 cents on internet dating, as I have been an "active participant" in it for the last 2-3 months. I am 35, doing well in life, and consider myself a "good catch," so getting dates has not been a problem. But that being said, I have found that internet dating can be a crazy experience.

I was previously with the same woman for nine years (married for six), and then in a one-year relationship that ended 3 months ago. I signed up for eHarmony (pay site), and OKCupid and Plenty of Fish (both free sites) as I am not much into the bar scene when I am not gigging. I have gone on a fair share of first dates (averaging two or three dates a week), including some multiple dates with the same woman. Here is what I have learned in a nutshell:

-most of the attractive women on the free sites get bombarded with emails. Thus, your chances of actually getting a response to your emails are slim to none. This can be very discouraging and frustrating. So, be ready to send out a lot of well-written emails, with the expectation that you will only get a response about 10% of the time.

-most women on the pay sites seem to take it more seriously; if you are willing to pay for something, then you want to get your money's worth. I have had more dates and better communications through eHarmony than the free sites.

-I have had very little luck with Plenty of Fish, while OKCupid can give some pay sites a run for their money when it comes to features. I will most likely delete my profile on Plenty of Fish soon.

-it can be a part-time job keeping up with all of the communications/emails, and the biggest difficulty for me is remembering what I said to each girl. Think of it as "juggling" possible relationships. But remember, the women are also doing their share of "juggling;" don't assume that you are the only guy she is seeing or communicating with. It can be more like work than what you might initially think. I am to the point that I am getting kind of burned out on it, and am gradually scaling back on the number of messages I send out. I am now more willing to wait for "quality," than weed through the "quantity" approach.

-in my area (DC-Metro), the majority of women seem focused on their careers and partying, and only the ones in their mid to late 30's seem serious about settling down and having kids (my goal). This has been frustrating for me, and probably the main reason why I have not yet found the right person (I have my search settings set for late-20s to early 30's).

-after awhile, most profiles seem to read the same: "want a guy that makes me laugh, loves to go hiking, my favorite TV show is Modern Family, my favorite book is the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, blah blah blah." Again, very frustrating. I have found a few profiles that don't fit this typical format, and those seem to be the women that are the most interesting to me. However, getting a response from them is not always so easy . . .

So, after 3 months or so, I would probably sum up internet dating in one word: "frustrating." It is time-consuming if you are a guy and take it seriously, like I do (or at least if you are trying to find a long-term relationship partner versus just casual sex). While I have not given up on it completely (trying to keep my options open), I have recently found it more discouraging than "fun."

[scottlr]

Grocery store.

Walk a dog in the park (puppy even better).

[GSHARP]

I will give my 2 cents on internet dating, as I have been an "active participant" in it for the last 2-3 months. I am 35, doing well in life, and consider myself a "good catch," so getting dates has not been a problem. But that being said, I have found that internet dating can be a crazy experience.

I was previously with the same woman for nine years (married for six), and then in a one-year relationship that ended 3 months ago. I signed up for eHarmony (pay site), and OKCupid and Plenty of Fish (both free sites) as I am not much into the bar scene when I am not gigging. I have gone on a fair share of first dates (averaging two or three dates a week), including some multiple dates with the same woman. Here is what I have learned in a nutshell:

-most of the attractive women on the free sites get bombarded with emails. Thus, your chances of actually getting a response to your emails are slim to none. This can be very discouraging and frustrating. So, be ready to send out a lot of well-written emails, with the expectation that you will only get a response about 10% of the time.

-most women on the pay sites seem to take it more seriously; if you are willing to pay for something, then you want to get your money's worth. I have had more dates and better communications through eHarmony than the free sites.

-I have had very little luck with Plenty of Fish, while OKCupid can give some pay sites a run for their money when it comes to features. I will most likely delete my profile on Plenty of Fish soon.

-it can be a part-time job keeping up with all of the communications/emails, and the biggest difficulty for me is remembering what I said to each girl. Think of it as "juggling" possible relationships. But remember, the women are also doing their share of "juggling;" don't assume that you are the only guy she is seeing or communicating with. It can be more like work than what you might initially think. I am to the point that I am getting kind of burned out on it, and am gradually scaling back on the number of messages I send out. I am now more willing to wait for "quality," than weed through the "quantity" approach.

-in my area (DC-Metro), the majority of women seem focused on their careers and partying, and only the ones in their mid to late 30's seem serious about settling down and having kids (my goal). This has been frustrating for me, and probably the main reason why I have not yet found the right person (I have my search settings set for late-20s to early 30's).

-after awhile, most profiles seem to read the same: "want a guy that makes me laugh, loves to go hiking, my favorite TV show is Modern Family, my favorite book is the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, blah blah blah." Again, very frustrating. I have found a few profiles that don't fit this typical format, and those seem to be the women that are the most interesting to me. However, getting a response from them is not always so easy . . .

So, after 3 months or so, I would probably sum up internet dating in one word: "frustrating." It is time-consuming if you are a guy and take it seriously, like I do (or at least if you are trying to find a long-term relationship partner versus just casual sex). While I have not given up on it completely (trying to keep my options open), I have recently found it more discouraging than "fun."


Pretty interesting, thx for sharing.

[JB]

I wanna meet women not necessarily for sex, I'd like to spend some god time, outdoor activities, dinner, stuff like that.

Where do you people go?

I'd say a church is usually a good place to go for that.

[GSHARP]

I'd say a church is usually a good place to go for that.

lol! My bad, I meant GOOD time!!!!

[Scott Auld]

lol! My bad, I meant GOOD time!!!!

I think for a good time, you're supposed to call 867-5309


Jokes aside, there are some great answers in here, but I suspect you will find lots of places you already go that have some quality people in them that go unnoticed every day.

My hint is to look at the people behind the counter.

[CowTipton]

I met my last g/f at a gas station while paying for my fill up. She was in line next to me.
Met the one before that at a train station.

I think the point is that there's no place to meet women. You meet women everywhere.

[wstsidela]

www.meetup.com (http://www.meetup.com)

This is a great place to make friends in your area who share common interests.

I bet the chicks are hot at that D&D meet-up

[Bozak]

Library, bookstore, grocery store- no, not the place, people are there for a reason and it's not to meet you.

Church- sounds really lame, especially if you don't go to church.

Online dating- no, there's a reason those people are there and it's not good, also the format defeats the proper boy-meets-girl foreplay that kickstarts a great relationship, not enough mystery, I say avoid it unless you're just looking to get laid.


Just get out there and avoid trying to find dates, find the social settings where a date can be made.

[Sandy Cheeks]

I thought this was mensa

It's certainly not a church.

[Hogan/Guitars]

You're kinda in the same boat as me by the sounds of it. early 40's can be a limbo hell. If the women aged 35-45 aren't married or divorced with a couple kids...their bio clocks are ticking or done...and if they aren't interested in kids you better be able to spring for a lavish lifestyle-hey Barbados here we come-goodbye 4 grand. "What you don't drive a Land Rover".:rotflmao

OK that was an attempt at humour but you say you're a good catch living in Canadas biggest free for all city. What could be wrong?.

[ACfixer]

Church- sounds really lame, especially if you don't go to church.

Wow, this really is Mensa.

[Sandy Cheeks]

Wow, this really is Mensa.

Maybe it's time for a "post your IQ thread".

[arthur rotfeld]

Married guy, so I'm not looking to meet women, but I have a whole bunch of new good friends who I met through a regional fishing forum. A good bunch of guys. I'm kind of amazed that I've met six or seven good friends and a dozen more good acquaintances.

I have a few friends from regular attendance at a Yoga studio, mostly women, and Platonic relations.

[Travst]

I didn't get married until I was 29, and went out a lot using one simple philosophy.

Remember that women are 50% of the population, they are everywhere. If you see someone you'd like to talk to, do it. Put aside fear of rejection and go for it. I've met women in bars, church, laundromats, etc. They're all over the place and you can find a reason to talk to them.

[Chris Scott]

TRADER JOE'S



...that was too easy.:eeks

[alguit]

Library, bookstore, grocery store- no, not the place, people are there for a reason and it's not to meet you.

Church- sounds really lame, especially if you don't go to church.

Online dating- no, there's a reason those people are there and it's not good, also the format defeats the proper boy-meets-girl foreplay that kickstarts a great relationship, not enough mystery, I say avoid it unless you're just looking to get laid.




Agreed on the online part but not the others. Libraries and bookstores and such have worked for people I know (and I have been approached quite a bit by women in bookstores-though my gf doesn't like it!). Ruling them out with such an absolute argument is a bit shortsighted. As for church, I only agree with the part about if one doesn't go to church (or isn't religious)-otherwise, it seems kind of creepy and desperate, just another meat market. If one is a believer and might visit a church anyway, why not go there with the hope of meeting someone like minded/spirited? Plenty of folks at my church have met there and have great relationships. Many churches have a singles ministry and/or activities one can attend such as study groups and more social events-if you're so inclined go; if not, then don't-the women can smell a "meat-market psuedo-Christian" from a mile away.

I DO think its best not to try too hard; as others have noted, there are so many places to go, you'll meet lots of women no matter what, and there's probably going to be a great one for you in there! I wish you all the best!

-Alan

[Sandy Cheeks]

the women can smell a "meat-market psuedo-Christian" from a mile away.


Smells like chicken! [And the OP is from Quebec, not a religious place.]

OTOH, if you aren't religious, consider going to a "skeptics in the pub" meeting. We're all around the world. But be warned: the cute woman next to you may turn and say, "I claim the universe came into existence fifteen minute ago, complete with the memories in our brains, holes in your socks and your obvious need for a haircut. Prove me wrong...Go!"

[Midnight Lady]

Well I'm not a single guy and I'm not about your age, but I would suggest online. There are many places to meet people, not just dating sites but forums (like this one) where people talk about similar interests.

Flyin' Brian and I met online and have been married 2 1/2 years. My daughter met her fiance online and they will be married in October (they're closer to your age). My best friend met her soon-to-be husband on match.com and they will be married in August.

It works.

[calpa94]

I think for a good time, you're supposed to call 867-5309


Jokes aside, there are some great answers in here, but I suspect you will find lots of places you already go that have some quality people in them that go unnoticed every day.

My hint is to look at the people behind the counter.


I almost spit out my lunch when I read the 8675309 line.

[Pfeister]

Well I'm not a single guy and I'm not about your age, but I would suggest online...

...It works.

Be careful.
mTTwcCVajAc

[marko]

work place, coffee shops, outdoor concerts, greenways, dog park, cycling group, working out, civic volunteer groups, continued educ classes....i have meet several nice ladies recently or in the past...

stare at, smile & talk usually gets a cell #.

[alguit]

Smells like chicken! [And the OP is from Quebec, not a religious place.]

OTOH, if you aren't religious, consider going to a "skeptics in the pub" meeting. We're all around the world. But be warned: the cute woman next to you may turn and say, "I claim the universe came into existence fifteen minute ago, complete with the memories in our brains, holes in your socks and your obvious need for a haircut. Prove me wrong...Go!"

Hmmm, looks like the church needs a missions trip to Quebec! ;)

Let's see, to prepare for that cute woman, I'd already have a piece of paper in my pocket that says, "I was prepared a beautiful woman to come up to me and say, "I claim the universe came into existence fifteen minutes ago...", take it out, read it to her, turn it over to the blank side and ask her to put her phone number there. :)

[cruisemates]

The upside to computer dating is that it gets you in the habit of meeting new women. It takes a year or so before you get past all the wierdness you are definitely going to encounter with dating in general.

My story: I did computer dating for about two or three years before I met my wife to be (at a high school reunion) in 2002. She had not been dating for years, but I had, so I was prepared for almost everything that happened that could have killed our relationship. We got married in 2004 and are still happy.

My theory is that it isn't that there are not women around - it is just that it is so hard to meet them. And even when you meet them, these days many women are very polarized and set in their ways. "Kick him to the curb" is a common phrase with single women these days - there are far more "deal breakers" than "deal makers" out there for most women these days.

So - after you meet women the trick is getting to the next step, as in "seeing them" on a regular basis. There are plenty of women out there, you just have to learn how to get along with them.

But breaking the ice is definitely the hard part. But once again, I can think back to times when I was lonely and I met beautiful women, but I wasn't prepared for the situation and somehow screwed it up. Online dating, even (especially?) the rejections, teaches you a LOT about how to work through the weirdness of new relationships. You may not meet the woman of your dreams that way (or you might) but either way it is a good way to find company and get your mindset ready for when you do meet the right one.

[Fred Farkus]

Craigslist personals...

:messedup:messedup:facepalm:)

[spakuloid]

Go straight to Salt Lake City, Utah. No joke. Lots of women. Beautiful women. Friendly women. Beautiful, friendly and culturally repressed women. That is all I'm going to say on it. I have many many years of experience there to back me up.

[cruisemates]

Oh yeah - and cute dogs are definitely chick magnets. I would consider volunteering to walk one for a friend - the cuter the better. Our dog gets checked out by at least three women every time we walk her.

Here is another idea - I dated a modern dancer for many years. needless to say she was beautiful in a way that just drew men to her. I was lucky in that I "won her" for many years. Anyway - the dance world for women is like this web site for men - women love modern dance, ballet, etc, and there are so many beautiful specimens in that world and almost NO straight men. Seriously, if you know how to do audio or play, see if you can get involved with theater and dance at a local college or cultural center. So many attractive women wondering where to meet men. It often amazed me when I was in that world.

[Brad Scott]

Be careful.
mTTwcCVajAc
Fake - but funny as hell.

Good actress! Probably using this for an audition.

[2leod]

Be careful.
mTTwcCVajAc

That's a funny young lady right there - I'm surprised people think she's serious though, because the part about "wanting them in baskets and rainbows" cracks me up.

[Peteyvee]

Well I'm not a single guy and I'm not about your age, but I would suggest online. There are many places to meet people, not just dating sites but forums (like this one) where people talk about similar interests.

Flyin' Brian and I met online and have been married 2 1/2 years. My daughter met her fiance online and they will be married in October (they're closer to your age). My best friend met her soon-to-be husband on match.com and they will be married in August.

It works.

I agree with this 100%. I met Ms Vee online (at eharmony, it's not free, so it weeds out most of the losers) and we've been together 3 1/2 years. It was love at first sight, but before her, there were 2 others I went out with that I "met" there. Not a dog or a loser in the bunch. One was a executive, one was a psychologist and Ms Vee is an engineer.

I never had to make the first move either, all of them emailed me first, including a few others that didn't pass the literacy test, like the "nale technican" and the woman that posted pictures of herself lying on a bed wearing a teddy and hugging a heart shaped pillow that said "Daddy's Little Girl". She also wrote that she wasn't looking for a one night stand... :roll

Just be honest in your profile and post recent pictures of yourself. I did three: a headshot, a shot of me playing at the House of Blues and another with a group of friends.

BTW: It's easy to spot the nuts, substance abusers and clingers after a few emails and speaking to them on the phone. If you're not comfortable, move on. There won't be any hard feelings...

[twoheadedboy]

So far, it's been work and school for me. I don't enjoy the online thing at all. There are a lot of really important intangibles that are tough to get from chatting online with someone. I'm 25, and a lot of women my age don't seem to take online dating seriously. I have some female acquaintances who basically use it as a way to get some attention/affirmation. I can see it working better for older people.

[davecan]

Online works for many... but for me it was a lot of weird ladies with major issues. (Yeah, maybe they're saying the same about me). Met my wife at work.

[Sandy Cheeks]

I lived in the UK (Manchester) for five years, and came to realize why a friend call it "fish'n'sh*tz". I would only get it when I was really drunk and hungry after closing time. Then I went from the UK to Australia to bum around. Much better fish'n'chips. My favorite fish choices were barramundi and flake (shark). And the chips didn't bend in half when you held them up! Big up for Ozzie fish'n'chips.

[GSHARP]

The online thing seems to get the favor...

[Julia343]

Be careful.
mTTwcCVajAc

Is she on X? Holy crap! I saw someone who was on x once.... once. Damn!

Online? I found if frustrating. Most people lie about stuff in their profile. You'll be able to smoke out that pretty quickly. Meet at a coffee shop in the afternoon, and be on time. Sometimes your "date" won't show so bring a book or magazine.

I'm just too anti-social to bother anymore.

[GSHARP]

Is she on X? Holy crap! I saw someone who was on x once.... once. Damn!

Online? I found if frustrating. Most people lie about stuff in their profile. You'll be able to smoke out that pretty quickly. Meet at a coffee shop in the afternoon, and be on time. Sometimes your "date" won't show so bring a book or magazine.

I'm just too anti-social to bother anymore.


Hahahahaha! Even if the online thing has the favor I'm not sure I wanna do that... I much prefer the face to face, old school way of meeting people.

[jrjones]

TGP! Duh! LOL. My guitar never gets mad at me when I go play with other guitars, I can bring other guitars to the party, you can play your friends without any hard feelings and even have more than one.

Now tell me how many of teh wimmenz are ok with that?!?

Lol

Go where people are. There is no set place for you to meet people. Find a good pub with awesome food and go hang out.

[jrjones]

What about craigslist :sarcasm

[Peteyvee]

Hahahahaha! Even if the online thing has the favor I'm not sure I wanna do that... I much prefer the face to face, old school way of meeting people.

You do meet them face to face. Think of it as a resume: the whole point is to get the face to face interview and then "bag" :Devil the job. With a few emails and then some phone time, you can sort the wheat from the chaff pretty quickly... Like Julia said, there are a lot of liars (and old photos) on the dating sites. Then again, you'll never know unless you try.
PS I wasn't looking for a serious relationship. It just happened.

[hank57]

Yoga

[Chas]

Rehab........oh wait never mind

[urizen]

Hate bars, wanta get laid, join AA.

Or---connect w/ a group related to your enthusiasms... hobbies or politics or sports or art(s) or other "lifestyle" sorts of things that way you'll have something automatically in common, and often they do socializing activities.

[Peteyvee]

Hate bars, wanta get laid, join AA.

Or---connect w/ a group related to your enthusiasms... hobbies or politics or sports or art(s) or other "lifestyle" sorts of things that way you'll have something automatically in common, and often they do socializing activities.

Don't they call that the 13th step? You know, have sex with the newcomers?

[WheelchairBandit]

....... and be careful with okcupid or plentyoffish.

Probably for the best if you just avoid those two altogether. Over a period of about 18 months, I dated three women I met through those sites. All three eventually admitted that they had been locked up in a mental institution within the last few years.

Brian.

[Ultron]

TRADER JOE'S



...that was too easy.:eeks

THIS....place is infested with single women

[VicAjax]

Yoga

not for me. i always get caught looking at the wrong parts at the wrong time. :dunno

[VicAjax]

oooh... i bet a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting would be a good place to meet people.

[JamesT]

Trader Joe's is the bomb!!! It is one of my highlights of week...'

[shredtrash]

You said the magic words in the OP: "gig". You're a gigging musician! You should be able to clean up if you're in the market!

[Brian D]

Take some classes doing something you enjoy, or something are interested in learning -- preferably something that is at least equally appealing to women as it is to men. That way you'll have at least one thing in common if you meet a woman there.

[urizen]

Don't they call that the 13th step? You know, have sex with the newcomers?
Who is this "they" of whom you speak;)? And 13th step? Who could wait THAT long? It's more like the 1st-and-a-half through the 3rd-and-three-fifths... at least, that's what "they" told me 22 years 10 months 3 weeks and a few days ago.

[GSHARP]

You said the magic words in the OP: "gig". You're a gigging musician! You should be able to clean up if you're in the market!

One would think that but all I see are "guitar chicks", meaning if I wasn't on the stage doing my thing, they wouldn't give a hoot about me or what I do. Some of you might have been lucky meeting a woman in a bar during one of your gig, but it never happened to me.

And also, I will - again - point out that I'm not "in the market", meaning that I don't want/need to be in a relationship, I just want to meet new people, take my time, make new friends and have a good time.

But hey, you never know, it might happen at some gig. I'm lucky I'm in multiple projects, very different projects.

[iggy23]

facebook?:hide2

[alguit]

Take some classes doing something you enjoy, or something are interested in learning -- preferably something that is at least equally appealing to women as it is to men. That way you'll have at least one thing in common if you meet a woman there.


I forgot to mention this one in my previous post-I teach at a two-year college in northern New Jersey, and while the majority of my students are late teens and early twenty-somethings, I always have a good number of students older than this, up through their sixties, and I've witnessed many form relationships (and even have played matchmaker a few times!). Hell, when I was younger and not in a relationship, I dated some of the women once the semester was over and the grades were turned in.

A college, or cooking class, adult-education program in a town, etc, can be a fantastic opportunity.

[shane88]

supermarket or u know outside ur front door - full marks to whoever said women are everywhere ;)