"How to Land Your Kid in Therapy"

[Jason Calieri]

Great article.

"Why the obsession with our kids’ happiness may be dooming them to unhappy adulthoods. A therapist and mother reports."

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/...-therapy/8555/

[SamsDaddy]

That article was excellent. I know many parents who could stand to take the wisdom in that article to heart.

[Sandy Cheeks]

Too late, my oldest daughter and I go to see the same therapist.

[Tony]

Thanks for the link... that's a great read.

[crifasta]

Great article. Makes a lot of sense. Thanks for posting.

[JimGtr]

Thanks for posting. That was actually a really good article.

[epluribus]

Fosse-natin'. Gearheads and modelers take note (me included ):

Originally Posted by The Atlantic Monthly, Lori Gottlieb

In one study Schwartz and his team conducted, kids were randomly divided into two groups and then asked to draw a picture. Kids in one group were asked to choose a marker to use from among three; kids in the other group were asked to choose from among 24 markers. Afterward, when the pictures were evaluated by an elementary-school art teacher who did not know which group had produced which pictures, the drawings rated the “worst” were by and large created by kids in the 24-marker group. Then, in a second part of the experiment, the researchers had the kids pick one marker from their set to keep as a gift. Once the kids had chosen, the researchers tried to persuade them to give back their marker in exchange for other gifts. The kids who had chosen from 24 markers did this far more easily than those who had chosen from only three markers. According to Schwartz, this suggests that the kids who had fewer markers to select from not only focused better on their drawings, but also committed more strongly to their original gift choice.

What does this have to do with parenting? Kids feel safer and less anxious with fewer choices, Schwartz says; fewer options help them to commit to some things and let go of others, a skill they’ll need later in life.

Alfred Eisenstadt, the Life Magazine photographer, is said to have demanded that his students master the 50mm lens and Tri-X B&W film before venturing into the bottomless pit of color and gadgets. I suspect he'd be wagging his finger at me...

--Ray

[Jahn]

Makes you think, like good articles are wont to do. Thanks for the link, it was a good read.

"you'll play a tele and a tweed and you'll like it! Get in that woodshed and stop yer bellyachin!"

[Bobby D]

Originally Posted by epluribus

Fosse-natin'. Gearheads and modelers take note (me included ):



Alfred Eisenstadt, the Life Magazine photographer, is said to have demanded that his students master the 50mm lens and Tri-X B&W film before venturing into the bottomless pit of color and gadgets. I suspect he'd be wagging his finger at me...

--Ray

if you CANT do it with a 50mm lense and a roll of TRI-X, you probably can't do it with $10k worth of cameras and film.

[Chris Scott]

Originally Posted by Jahn

Makes you think, like good articles are wont to do. Thanks for the link, it was a good read.

"you'll play a tele and a tweed and you'll like it! Get in that woodshed and stop yer bellyachin!"

Funny how 41 years later, I'm still more than OK with the Tele and the Tweed...

...great article btw.

[Baloney]

You mean youre not supposed to SPOIL your children?? I think Ive heard that concept somewhere before. Hmmmmmmmmmm

[epluribus]

Originally Posted by Bobby D

if you CANT do it with a 50mm lense and a roll of TRI-X, you probably can't do it with $10k worth of cameras and film.

Heard that! Sort of a Walden Pond theory of art...or was it Zen and fixin' bikes?

[senseofrelief]

The assumption being that we have a generation of Type A parents really pushing their kids to succeed...sorry...except for a few screaming parents at a West Texas High School football game, for the most part a generation of fat kids, playing World of Warcraft, feeling sorry for themselves is not an indicator of hard driven parents.

[TeleSavalas]

Great article. Thanks for sharing.

[fusion58]

Pretty much right on the money.

As a wise man once said, "life's not fair - rocks are hard and water's wet."