Ted Nugent once said he wouldn’t play with musicians that weren’t as good as himself. I used to hate him for that quote, but now I understand it more.The older I get, the less time I have to waste on people who can't play.
Harsh but true.
Don't have to be mean about it, just be honest and deal with what happens.
Yes when they don't clash with him. I just want him to not play.If you are playing standards with her, are you playing bass lines within your comping? If so, I’d use that as a valid reason to discourage an unwanted bass player. I already do this.
If not, get started on it.
You're absolutely right I know what I'm going to do, but I wanted to toss it out there just to see if there might be another little jewel of insight that I may have missed because I've blinded myself with pure frustration. Information is power.You know. This is not your first rodeo.
Even more important: avoid playing with musicians who don't listen (you know the type) or have no intention of practicing enough to really improve. To some people —those to be avoided in these situations— playing music is just a cool hobby (certainly it is that), but they are not passionate about becoming the best they can be at playing their instrument, or playing a certain style of music, or even playing to simply make the band sound the best.Ted Nugent once said he wouldn’t play with musicians that weren’t as good as himself.
She and I are in another project together and fortunately that bass player is an incumbent so the husband isn't involved. It's like night and day...........Either way, the husband/wife dynamic is the sticky part. If it's just the open jam, I'd say just grin and bear it (since it's only a few tunes at a time). But if it's a project where you'd be doing a whole show's worth of material, then yeah, you'll want a more solid "keeper of the low end".