At what age are you all thinking you may be too old to play out in a band?

Discussion in 'The Pub' started by C-4, Sep 16, 2019.

  1. Motterpaul

    Motterpaul Tone is in the Ears

    Messages:
    11,670
    Joined:
    Dec 16, 2010
    Location:
    Encinitas, SoCal
    There are tons of guys your age still playing here in California
     
    84superchamp likes this.
  2. Bluzeboy

    Bluzeboy Member

    Messages:
    7,278
    Joined:
    Jul 31, 2006
    I have followed this thread with some interest..
    First let me say I’m sneaking up on my very late 60’s. I’ve also been playing since I was 13.
    Age is only relevant to a point but it also very much depends on what type of music you are playing..

    Jazz guys (i.e Les Paul, Metheny, etc) Blues guys (BB, Guy, etc), Country/Bluegrass guys( Monroe, Doc Watson, Scruggs) sure.. play until you decide not to..

    Rock and Roll/Rock guys.. there is a shelf life involved.
    I happen to agree with the posters wife that stated “it’s embarrassing”.
    With the possible exception of the Stones no one wants to see a 70yo
    Playing a bar at 2am with a bunch of 30 somethings doing cover songs.
    I understand the egos involved here but honestly have you taken video of yourself doing that? Do you look even slightly out of place?
    I’m sure I’ll get hammered for this but at least think about it instead of having a knee jerk reaction..
     
  3. Dickie Fredericks

    Dickie Fredericks Supporting Member

    Messages:
    10,622
    Joined:
    Jan 26, 2006
    Location:
    Florida
  4. ripgtr

    ripgtr Member

    Messages:
    7,408
    Joined:
    Jul 17, 2014
    Location:
    Austin, TX
    I'm 62 and hope I can keep playing for a long, long time.
    I just left a band in Texas, pedal steel player was 75. And he was playing with 3 or 4 bands. He kept saying he needed to cut back some, but it never happened. :)
     
    C-4 and Steve Hotra like this.
  5. Steve Hotra

    Steve Hotra Silver Supporting Member

    Messages:
    7,992
    Joined:
    Jan 26, 2007
    Location:
    Camas WA.
    I’m turning 63 in a few days and still get invites. I play in country, Americana and gospel bands.
    And I actually get to sing lead in a few church services.

    I started playing pedal and lap steel, and that’s opened up a few doors that were closed before. Not that I am great, but I have a strong chord theory background. And I’m taking a few lessons from a steel player in his 70’s.

    As long as it’s fun and I can mentally/ physically go, then I’m going to continue.
     
  6. ripgtr

    ripgtr Member

    Messages:
    7,408
    Joined:
    Jul 17, 2014
    Location:
    Austin, TX
    I bought a steel years ago, got a little ways with it, then the kid was born. Put it in the garage, I didn't have time for much regular guitar let alone a new instrument. 3 years ago, I got it out, said "learn it or sell it" so I got serious. Not great, but I did my first steel gig Friday. Well, I played mostly guitar, played steel on maybe a half dozen. It was fun and for the most part sounded ok. Really enjoy learning it. Also may have picked up a gig playing bass, not sure, I still have to audition. Last I checked, there isn't much on TV so might as well keep working on music stuff. :)
     
    Thumpalumpacus and Steve Hotra like this.
  7. misterturtlehead

    misterturtlehead Member

    Messages:
    4,425
    Joined:
    Jun 23, 2013
    All things considered, I don't think about that. I am 57. Although I have been a working musician for awhile I am more into "playing my instrument" and "practicing a lot" than "being in a band". But since I have spent a lot of time practicing and studying music I kind of think that I should be playing with somebody somewhere and getting paid for it. As I've gotten older and more experienced I have become more selective about who I play with and where I play. But I reckon I will be a working musician as long as I can stand upright and physically and mentally do it.
     
  8. Chris Scott

    Chris Scott Member

    Messages:
    8,538
    Joined:
    Sep 1, 2006
    Location:
    Playa Jaco, Costa Rica
    Sorry, but this is missing a very necessary component; context.

    You're never gonna find an age where everyone agrees you should stop (or start ftm) anything.
     
    84superchamp and Bluzeboy like this.
  9. mad dog

    mad dog Silver Supporting Member

    Messages:
    10,787
    Joined:
    Feb 23, 2005
    Location:
    Montclair, NJ
    Doesn't much matter to me, but sure does seem to matter to most bands I could otherwise be playing with. Nobody wants to play with grandpa. Whatever "grandpa" really means.
     
    Bluzeboy likes this.
  10. Zandalf

    Zandalf I don't remember

    Messages:
    787
    Joined:
    Jul 13, 2012
    Location:
    Brooklyn
    "The present day composer refuses to die!" Edgard Varese
     
    Last edited: Sep 17, 2019
  11. Brett's Les Paul

    Brett's Les Paul Member

    Messages:
    3,315
    Joined:
    Dec 15, 2010
    Location:
    South Central Florida
    I'm going to be 54 soon. My buddy and I have been the core of the same band for over fifteen years. I remember him saying when we were in our thirties that we would be too old by 50 and would have to hang it up. We both realize now how silly that notion was. We are healthy and better than ever. I have never had someone tell me I am too old to play. I have had people remark that they are quite surprised that someone who looks like me plays so well. I'm the local funeral home owner and look like it.
     
    84superchamp and Steve Hotra like this.
  12. rowdyyates

    rowdyyates Supporting Member

    Messages:
    4,788
    Joined:
    Feb 28, 2009
    Location:
    Usually East Texas
    Pretty much right on, but you can keep playing rock, just not in the typical bar. We’ve got a couple of spots that have an older crowd that supports us. Those gigs end at 11. A couple of other restaurants that have big bar areas love us. Those gigs are 6:30-10.

    We’ve also transformed the band and can play country/dance gigs as well. There’s lots of those opportunities around, so we take advantage of them. That won’t work for everybody. Three of us have played a lot of country in the past, and the other guitarist is great on fiddle and steel.

    Maintaining a big song list is a lot of work (well over 100), but if you want to keep playing just find your audience and venues and cater to them.
     
    84superchamp and Bluzeboy like this.
  13. Fatboy666

    Fatboy666 Supporting Member

    Messages:
    2,367
    Joined:
    Oct 9, 2008
    Location:
    Jersey
    I've observed, at least in the Northern Jersey area, that many bar bands are middle aged guys playing classic rock or 70's & 80's songs to middle aged bar patrons. I think that's because WE grew up that way. There wasn't as much to do in our early 20's so we went to bars to see bands, and as we hit our 50's we still kinda think that way. Humans are creatures of habit, so on a night out we revert back to the activities and music we loved.

    I'm sure 20 years from now, people in their 50's will go to tamer versions of raves and DJ parties.

    so my long winded answer to the OP, play as long as you want! There's still lots of us out there that wanna hear what you have to play.
     
    84superchamp likes this.
  14. standard24

    standard24 Member

    Messages:
    9,096
    Joined:
    Jan 14, 2013
    Location:
    San Antonio, Texas
    The guy who runs the weekly jam I attend told me yesterday that people often ask about me... He said they say "Who'd the old guy who plays so well?"

    I'm not so old...
     
  15. Sam Xavier

    Sam Xavier Member

    Messages:
    4,185
    Joined:
    Apr 8, 2018
    Location:
    Wath upon Dearne, UK
    Returning to the thread to post this:

    I talked about it with Mrs X. Her take is, if you're fit and well enough to lug your gear around and play for a few hours, it ain't a problem, no matter your age.
     
    rickt likes this.
  16. rickt

    rickt Gold Supporting Member

    Messages:
    1,158
    Joined:
    Feb 26, 2018
    Location:
    North Carolina
    Not so much age but physical condition. One of my best friends had to give playing in his late 40's due to arthritis. John Mayall is still playing and schlepping equipment in his 70s. I expect to keep going until rigor mortis sets in.
     
  17. 84superchamp

    84superchamp Silver Supporting Member

    Messages:
    31,542
    Joined:
    Sep 18, 2006
    Location:
    Okie Dokie, Indiana
    Anything about playing out should not be knee-jerk after becomming AARP eligible, it takes some consideration.
    And in my experience, i never paid much attention to the crowd, just concentrated on my performance. I would say the crowd is not part of the picture unless they are yelling insults or throwing stuff.....get off the stage.
    :brick
     
    Bluzeboy likes this.
  18. Guitarist64

    Guitarist64 Member

    Messages:
    77
    Joined:
    Aug 28, 2019
    Question: CAN you stop?......didn't think so.
     
    84superchamp likes this.

Share This Page

  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
    Dismiss Notice