Holy crap - this sh*t is really hard. Like the hardest thing I've ever dealt with. And I've dealt with some pretty hard things. It's nice to be loved, but it would be so much easier if they'd just say, "OK, no problem -- you really ain't all that. Ciao." (I'm really not "all that.") What makes it hardest is still having feelings for them and feeling their pain. Seriously, I'd be interested in other people's experiences with this sort of thing.