Breaking up with someone who really loves you

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  1. phoenix 7

    phoenix 7 Silver Supporting Member

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    Holy crap - this sh*t is really hard. Like the hardest thing I've ever dealt with. And I've dealt with some pretty hard things. It's nice to be loved, but it would be so much easier if they'd just say, "OK, no problem -- you really ain't all that. Ciao." (I'm really not "all that.") What makes it hardest is still having feelings for them and feeling their pain.

    Seriously, I'd be interested in other people's experiences with this sort of thing.

    :confused:

    :(
     
  2. phoenix 7

    phoenix 7 Silver Supporting Member

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    P.S. Just did a search on "breaking up" in case there might have been a recent thread on this topic that I missed. It just listed a million threads about amps.

    :)
     
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  3. cantstoplt021

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    I remember the first time I broke up with my girlfriend she stayed in my room for hours because she didn't want to leave cause then it would actually be over. I've also been through some tough stuff, but that was the worst. Sucked even more because I really really loved her (still do) but we were having a bunch of problems due to a long distance relationship. So yeah I know how you feel. It's pretty terrible.
     
  4. aynirar27

    aynirar27 All You Need Is Rock and Roll Gold Supporting Member

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    Bummer man, I wish I had some helpful advice.
    you did get a nod for the TGP hall of fame though if that makes ya feel better :)
     
  5. OminousPoultry

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    I wish I could help, but I don't know either. I broke up with someone last year and we are both still thinking our way through it.

    It's not the hardest thing I've done but the consequences are widespread. There are no rights and wrongs, and in my case the consequences after I left are just as bad as the reasons I called it quits. I'm as disappointed in myself as I was with my ex.
     
  6. phoenix 7

    phoenix 7 Silver Supporting Member

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    You are very kind, sir. Thank you. :) I hope you've been well.
     
  7. bgmacaw

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    Maybe I just wanna have it all
    It makes a sound like thunder
    It makes me feel like rain
    And like a fool who will never see the truth
    I keep thinking somethings gonna change

    But there's a danger in loving somebody too much
    And it's sad when you know it's your heart you can't trust
    There's a reason why people don't stay where they are
    Baby, sometimes love just ain't enough
     
  8. tms13pin

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    Been on both sides of that equation. No recipe for it other than if even one
    of the two aren't feeling it, it's not ever going to work out. You can wish
    things were a certain way all you like but if it's not there, it's not there.
    As with most things, time will help you solve it. Either she'll just get over
    it or she'll find someone else and that will move it along.

    Now plug in and make your amp "break up" too! That usually makes most
    things feel better too!

    --Tom
     
  9. derekd

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    Man, I'm really sorry.

    Though I don't know the details, it doesn't matter. If you've been on the planet long enough you understand this sort of thing. I wish both you well and hope you both get through this without doing or saying hurtful things.
     
  10. aynirar27

    aynirar27 All You Need Is Rock and Roll Gold Supporting Member

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    :beer i've been hanging in there. Wife and I have been shopping around to buy our first home. Pretty stressful but the good kind of stress.
     
  11. Frankee

    Frankee Wartime Consigliere

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    I got nothing. Just chiming in to say hi and send you some moaj. You're missed around here.
     
  12. A-Bone

    A-Bone Montonero, MOY, Multitudes Gold Supporting Member

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    What Frankee said.
     
  13. monty

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    Been on both sides and honestly breaking up with a nice girl who really cares for me really breaks my heart. I'd rather be dumped, it's less painful.
     
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    going thru a similiar situation-long distance relationships/communication is difficult-at best..but even close relationships are difficult,at times...just sayin
     
  15. JamesT

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    So how come you are dumping her?

    Good luck... :)

    If you ain't all that and she loves you then why dump her?
     
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    I agree and would like to add that "sometimes the ****ing you're getting isn't worth the ****ing you're getting", if you catch my drift. I was in a toxic relationship on and off for 13 years. Some things aren't meant to be.
     
  17. JamesT

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    Oh I see.... :(

    I never dated a psycho girl. All the girls I ever dated were nice and marriable.

    Even my ex probably made someone a decent wife when she became a mature adult. That is if her mother was dead. Her mother made Cruella Deville seem like Donna Reed or Wilbur's wife on Mr. Ed...:eeks

    Good luck. I hate to see anyone hurt. It is no fun...
     
  18. gimpyjoe

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    hope it all works out. life is too short like it is, better to suffer intense than long.
     
  19. cratz2

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    Ditto.
     
  20. mattball826

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    as long as you didn't give her the "it's not you" line (since it is)

    if you had another chick lined up, well hopefully you broke up with one before moving on.

    some people are not meant to be. it just is
     

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