Do parents still spank their children these days?

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  1. Dr. Tweedbucket

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    I don't believe it. I got whooped when I got out of line and I'm perfectly find find fine:brick

    ... and so we clearly have boatloads of kids that have no respect for authority these days ... I wonder why :huh
     
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    I grew up in the 70s and was spanked as a child. I had children of my own in the early 90s and never spanked them; they got "time-outs" instead. When I see children getting spanked these days I cringe. But it's none of my concern really... I would never say anything to the parents just because it's a practice I don't condone... that's their business.
     
  3. sixstringfuel

    sixstringfuel Hotdogs kill

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    I beat ours with a tire iron and fire poker. You would be amazed how effective it can be.
     
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    Seems like a lot of people get confused about “physical abuse” and “a spanking”.

    Choose not to use the belt? Cool.

    Don’t be a sh*thead to those who do.

    Kids don’t come w an instruction manual. You do not have all the answers. There’s no one right way.
     
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    I never spanked my kids. Thankfully my wife wouldnt let me. She is a social worker and knows about this stuff.

    My dad escallated until he cracked my ribs. He stopped after that. Im glad my kids arent afraid of me.
     
  6. Old Possum

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    Lol.
     
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    Dad never raised a hand to any of us 3 boys. He was a Drill Instructor for the USMC in the late 50's (MCRD San Diego) He could get his message across without getting physical.
     
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    as a model child I was rarely spanked

    now I have to pay for it :|

    to answer the Q as a crotchety old fart given the # of unruly kidz I see they should bring back caning & stocks in the town square
     
  9. sixstringfuel

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    That's one good way to reduce the cane toad population.
     
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    I'm so glad I never had kids.
     
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    This is my favorite thread today.
     
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  12. TheGuildedAge

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    I think resorting to physical violence just shows you are out of options and don't know how else to react.

    I get it too, no judgement. My 4 and 9 year old push buttons and I would be lying if I said they haven't gotten a tap on the bottom here or they due to my sheer frustration. I'm not proud of it.

    But I can't sit here and pontificate on why spanking is bad when I've struck other humans. I'd be a hypocrite.

    I'll say this too to further damn myself. The way my wife talks to me sometimes, her sarcasm, her condescension, etc., there have been times I thought, "if a man spoke to me that way I'd take a swing."
     
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    As a kid I got spanked, as a parent never did that. I got my point across to my kids without spanking and they turned out great.
     
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    I got spaked all the time as a child and teen and have no ill will. I think it made me a better person and taught me how to deal with adversity, especially when things didn't go my way. I also used to get paddled in High School on a daily basis for yep, you guessed it, class clown. So I started wearing an extra pair of shorts. This one teacher had holes drilled in his paddle so it would whistle it was awesome!

    If anyone has a link, I'd also like to see a study of those who are for and against spanking. My guees is those that are against were paddled excessively because of bad parenting and/or had a bad experience/abuse and I'm seriously not beign insensitive. But I'm sure theres a chance I'm wrong and it won't be the first time and that's why I come to TGP to learn stuff.

    I also wouldn't spank my kids today, I'd use psychology... like others mentioned cutting out internet/x-box and such.

    ~ss
     
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    While I am sure it is the results for some people, it is not a certain conclusion.
     
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    I grew up in the 60s and 70s and I was spanked. Hell, I was abused and it sucked. The last time I had an accident in my pants, my father put me in a bathtub of cold water and scrubbed my ass with a Brillo pad. I never had another accident. That was just one of many events. Nowadays both my parents would have been jailed.

    It took me a long time to acknowledge how it affected my life, as it was always presented to me as “normal.”
     
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    Start with the belt. Assert dominance early.
     
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    Reading through this litany of spank/anti spank philosophy I see a trend - it's not spanking that causes emotional or other problems in children - it's the anger behind it. IMO if a parent is angry/mad and hits the kids because they can't control their emotions - it seems a causality in future emotional problems in the kids. But if a parent is in control and in the mind of punishing bad behavior it appears to adjust the behavior without damaging the kid.

    We never spanked out daughter - we didn't have to. When she sees she has disappointed us that hurts her more. Generally she is a great kid - and well liked by her teachers and friends and well loved by her parents, uncles and aunts. These days the most effective discipline tool in our Parent Box? Taking away the iPhone and/or Computer Privileges.
     
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    This. Agreed. You can't go punishing still fired up and angry
     
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    Was she Italian ? My mom was off the boat and she was Annie Oakley with her shoes
     
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