A former co-worker just went to Laos (from Phoenix) for a funeral. I think she was gone a total of five days. But then she told me her boss is so fed up with his job that he stopped counting days off against people's vacation allowances. I am one month into a new job and my dearest elderly friend in Germany is 89, in the hospital and it's not looking good. I'm to call her daughter's cell phone in 20 min. when she's visiting her mom in the hospital. I'm really torn on what to do here. I've made a five day trip there before for a wedding, but that stuff gets announced six months in advance. Not sure how to go about this. Since she's not a relative, I doubt there will be a bereavement fare. Whatever happens is probably going to be very short notice and not easy to get away from work.