Ideas For Funeral-appropriate Songs

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  1. Phletch

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    A good friend of mine just passed away unexpectedly. He was a fellow guitarist-singer/performer and a gentle soul. I have been asked by the family to perform a song at the funeral. I've never been in this situation, and I'm a bit overwhelmed and not really thinking too clearly at the moment. I'm an experienced front-man, so I'll be taking my acoustic and singing. I have a few song ideas based on what kind of stuff he liked, and right now I'm thinking of doing "Easy" by the Commodores as he was a big R&B fan, and that was one of his favorite songs. I know this is a really personal choice, but I would appreciate any suggestions either from those of you who have done this or have been to a funeral and heard a song that really touched you.

    Thanks in advance.
     
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    sorry about your friend.

    i would say play an upbeat at the end of his service, if that's when you are playing.

    if in the beginning or middle, think of something gentle.

    i'd want to go out with a bang and everyone having fun.
     
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    Check Your Tears by Drivin N cryin..... Give it a listen and I promise you will thank me..... Another that moves me is "Don't Take Me For Granted" by Social Distortion, but more of a reality check song than a funeral song....
     
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    Brokedown Palace. To those that know it, that song brings up a lot of emotions and covers many different subjects. Death is one of them.
     
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    Do an acoustic cover of Come Sail Away by Styx, leaving out the UFO verse. I'd follow up with Simple Man.
     
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    Great suggestion...

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    Sorry for your friends having passed away. You might give
    "They won't go when I go" by Stevie Wonder a try



    It's what I'd want played at my own funeral.
     
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    Something on the country side: My Old Friend - Tim McGraw
     
  9. eflatminor

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    Sorry for your troubles.

    While 'Easy' is a great song, I think it would be inappropriate for a funeral with references to getting high and being free to do things...

    'Brokedown Palace' is a good suggestion. I would also consider:
    • 'Oh Very Young' by Cat Stevens;
    • Whiter Shade of Pale' by Procol Harum; and
    • 'Angel' by Sarah McLachlan
     
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    My mom wants me to play Cat Steven's version of "Morning Has Broken" at her funeral. How the hell I'll ever get through that I still don't know. Hopefully I have a long while to figure it out.

    Sorry for your loss. Maybe that old hymn will be what you are looking for.
     
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    When my Dad died some years back, was asked by the rest of the Family to sing & Play a tune. So there I was, off to the side in the Mausoleum with an Acoustic Guitar. It was as If I was in a dream. Scared as Hell (& I had been playing in Public for over 30 years). All I noticed was the interesting Room Reverb from all the Marble. So Sang & Played one of his Fav Tunes - "I Love a Rainy Night".
    He been an Old Style Gene Krupa Drummer, but couldn't very well Haul in a Drum Set & play the Drum Solo from "Sing Sing Sing"
     
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    I had to play at my brother in laws's dad's funeral. My sister met her husband young, so he was in like half my life as was his dad and I lived closer to them than my own folks so we were close too.

    He was a bit of a rambler in his youth so
    Long Way Home by Tom Waits was picked. I still have mixed feelings about the whole thing, but there was not a dry eye there when I got half way through. I think that's a okay thing in context. Lots of macho men that don't know how to do that.
     
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    Here comes the sun.
     
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    In My Life by the Beatles.
     
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    You probably know what would fit the situation best, but personally I'd go with a classic hymn. A TGP approved pick would be "Jordan" by Rival Sons if he was more of a rocker. Have you thought about writing one? I think that would a rough venue for singing, best of luck to you with whatever you may choose.
     
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    Amazing Grace, if a religious song would work for you.

    Live Forever by Billy Joe Shaver is a favorite of mine.

     
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    First, condolences.

    Second, I like your idea of picking a song that your friend liked. Perform it for him. Worry less about the other people in the room.

    "Easy" might be a great choice. It's got sort of a melancholy vibe, but the lyrics are sort of uplifting and it would work well slowed down a touch. FWIW I think just playing the changes behind the part where the guitar solo goes could be very effective and moving.
     
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    A few years back, when I first started dealing with some health issues... I decided there were 3 songs I wanted played at my funeral. They’re somewhat personal, but also pretty good for general purpose.

    Bookends Theme
    In My Life
    God Only Knows
     

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