Is it rude to say "You're welcome"

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  1. RedneckDerek

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    When you don't get a thank you? For example when you hold a door open for someone.


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    Sure, on the smallest scale of rudeness.

    I have used it on rare occasion. Doesnt help me to 'educate' said person on their manners, I would rather just stay on my wave instead of voice indignation.
     
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    yes.
    it makes it seem like you were being nice for the recognition, not just for the sake of being nice.
     
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    Sure, exposes this person as doing things for the wrong reason.
     
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    That would be rude. Let it go. When someone doesn't say thanks, it's nothing personal.
     
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    Being an incurable smart ass,i use it often.

    When i say "hello" to someone in passing if i get no response it's usually followed by a "nice talking with you".
     
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    So you like being ignored so much the first time you came back for more? All types.
     
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    Generally smart ass remarks like at do nothing but makes someone look petty. Doing a nice gesture doesn't then give you in turn a license to be an ass.

    Politeness and manners (and general nice behavior) should be done because it's the right thing to do. Not because you expect some sort of regonition or gratitude. Even if it should be given/returned by the other person.
     
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    Yeah,forcing rude people to respond is a hobby.
     
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    So anyone in your proximity is obligated to interact with you? Because that's your preference? Not everyone likes to say hi to every person they pass and some of those people feel it's rude for those that disagree to expect that from them.
     
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    I'd say hi to you Craig! :wave
     
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    CRAIG4FSU Whatever... Silver Supporting Member

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    You're clearly the type that finds that socially awkward.Not a big deal really.I was just raised to be polite and acknowledge people that give you salutations.All types,i know.
     
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    Living in a big busy city, I've been on both sides of this situation. I've said you're welcome without the thanks and I've received the ur welcome when I forgot to thank someone.


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    I suppose there are more creative ways to say, "You're welcome" like "My pleasure", "No problem", "Don't mention it", "It was nothing", "I'm happy to help", "Anytime".
     
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    I'd buy you a beer and i quit drinking last September.
     
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    lol.... Almost seem more sarcastic to me.



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    Nope, not awkward for me, though it might make you feel that way. If I didn't say hi back to you it was because I'm not paying attention to you and probably not even aware you're there. I was raised to be empathetic and realize not everyone likes what I like and let people be without feeling obligated to pander to them.
     
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    It's not about saying your welcome when someone says "Thank you". The OP is talking about saying it sarcastically to someone when they don't say "Thank You" in a situation that garners it.
     
  19. CRAIG4FSU

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    Oh,well yeah,it's obvious you feel that way.
     
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  20. CRAIG4FSU

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    Yep.
     

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