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Several years ago, I dunno 15 or so, I loaned a Fender Strat to my nephew. I loaned it with the caveats that
1. he could not sell it.
2. he can keep it as long as he plays it. If it just sits around in the case, then I want it back.
Fast forward to now, I come to find out the Strat has been living at my brothers' house. My nephew keeps it there for something to strum on when he visits his mom and dad.
My nephew is in grad school, several states away and highly doubtful he'll ever move back to the area.
Is it a dick move to want the guitar back?
I have a nice collection and I'm almost positive I'll sell it to finance another Ric or amp. Lord knows my brother makes enough $$ to buy an Am. Std. Strat any time he wants, and the guitar was loaned to my nephew--NOT my brother.
Anyone ever find themselves in a similar situation?
I'd be very curious to know your thoughts.....
Certainly don't blame you for not reading 13 pages of this!You can’t loan anything to anyone assuming you will get it back unless it’s a jacket you lent to your girlfriend because she was cold.
15 years ago? let it go unless you want your family talking **** about you.
The guitar is played 1-2 hours a year.Correct me if I am wrong, but the guitar is not even at the borrower house and he is in another state? How many hours a year is this guitar being played?
Has there been any progress to the situation?
I do.TLR it all, but who lends a player's grade USA strat to a 10 year old?
Certainly don't blame you for not reading 13 pages of this!
I mentioned earlier that I'm considered a p*ssy and f*ggot (been called this and many other pithy things directly by my dad) in my family for being artistically inclined. My family has talked **** about me and to me my entire life. I stopped caring what they think of or say to me many years ago.
The guitar is played 1-2 hours a year.
No progression in the situation, but I am going to take it back when I have to see those people at Thanksgiving, and to be brutally honest--getting the guitar is the only reason I will see those people at Thanksgiving.
My nephew is a good kid. He know the guitar has always been a loan. I have no reason to suspect that he'll be upset with me wanting it back. He has lost interest in playing guitar. He is turning himself into quite a good writer.
Since so many people have offered their psychoanalysis of me and this situation----
I saw the exact same physical and psychological abuse I endured being inflicted on my nephew for the exact same reasons it was inflicted on me. Wonderful cycle.
He showed some interest in learning to play. At the time I had two Strats, a Les Paul and a Tele. I had recently got my first hardtail Strat, something I'd wanted ever since learning they existed. So, I loaned him the Am. Std. because the hardtail was getting all my attention (still does) and his parents (my brother and sister-in-law) would never bought him a guitar or allowed him to buy one with his own lawn mowing money.
He has always known the guitar is a loan. That has never been in question.
As his life progressed and he went through the struggle of disassociating oneself from people who view artistic expression as a threat, something to be mocked and feared he left guitar playing behind. He found his muse elsewhere and I'm beyond proud of him for it. Guitar playing isn't part of the life he is building for himself.
If he'd brought the guitar with him, I'd have no real interest in getting it back. But that isn't the case. He doesn't play anymore so I'm taking it back.
Would it have been nice if he returned it? Sure, but I'm not sweating that in the least.
If I were you --and if possible-- I would make the trip to get your guitar before Thanksgiving. Unless you're planning on "making a scene" and giving them all a piece of your mind while there, I don't see the value in grabbing the guitar in front of the whole family.[...] getting the guitar is the only reason I will see those people at Thanksgiving [...]
I'd hook up with her for the night just to find out and in wee hours search, seek and split.I left a MIM Strat at a chick’s house 3 or 4 years back. I sometimes wonder if it’s still there.
1 to 2 hours a year... nuff z nuff said! Enjoy your new guitar, or sell it!Certainly don't blame you for not reading 13 pages of this!
I mentioned earlier that I'm considered a p*ssy and f*ggot (been called this and many other pithy things directly by my dad) in my family for being artistically inclined. My family has talked **** about me and to me my entire life. I stopped caring what they think of or say to me many years ago.
The guitar is played 1-2 hours a year.
No progression in the situation, but I am going to take it back when I have to see those people at Thanksgiving, and to be brutally honest--getting the guitar is the only reason I will see those people at Thanksgiving.
My nephew is a good kid. He know the guitar has always been a loan. I have no reason to suspect that he'll be upset with me wanting it back. He has lost interest in playing guitar. He is turning himself into quite a good writer.
Since so many people have offered their psychoanalysis of me and this situation----
I saw the exact same physical and psychological abuse I endured being inflicted on my nephew for the exact same reasons it was inflicted on me. Wonderful cycle.
He showed some interest in learning to play. At the time I had two Strats, a Les Paul and a Tele. I had recently got my first hardtail Strat, something I'd wanted ever since learning they existed. So, I loaned him the Am. Std. because the hardtail was getting all my attention (still does) and his parents (my brother and sister-in-law) would never bought him a guitar or allowed him to buy one with his own lawn mowing money.
He has always known the guitar is a loan. That has never been in question.
As his life progressed and he went through the struggle of disassociating oneself from people who view artistic expression as a threat, something to be mocked and feared he left guitar playing behind. He found his muse elsewhere and I'm beyond proud of him for it. Guitar playing isn't part of the life he is building for himself.
If he'd brought the guitar with him, I'd have no real interest in getting it back. But that isn't the case. He doesn't play anymore so I'm taking it back.
Would it have been nice if he returned it? Sure, but I'm not sweating that in the least.
Certainly don't blame you for not reading 13 pages of this!
I mentioned earlier that I'm considered a p*ssy and f*ggot (been called this and many other pithy things directly by my dad) in my family for being artistically inclined. My family has talked **** about me and to me my entire life. I stopped caring what they think of or say to me many years ago.
The guitar is played 1-2 hours a year.
No progression in the situation, but I am going to take it back when I have to see those people at Thanksgiving, and to be brutally honest--getting the guitar is the only reason I will see those people at Thanksgiving.
My nephew is a good kid. He know the guitar has always been a loan. I have no reason to suspect that he'll be upset with me wanting it back. He has lost interest in playing guitar. He is turning himself into quite a good writer.
Since so many people have offered their psychoanalysis of me and this situation----
I saw the exact same physical and psychological abuse I endured being inflicted on my nephew for the exact same reasons it was inflicted on me. Wonderful cycle.
He showed some interest in learning to play. At the time I had two Strats, a Les Paul and a Tele. I had recently got my first hardtail Strat, something I'd wanted ever since learning they existed. So, I loaned him the Am. Std. because the hardtail was getting all my attention (still does) and his parents (my brother and sister-in-law) would never bought him a guitar or allowed him to buy one with his own lawn mowing money.
He has always known the guitar is a loan. That has never been in question.
As his life progressed and he went through the struggle of disassociating oneself from people who view artistic expression as a threat, something to be mocked and feared he left guitar playing behind. He found his muse elsewhere and I'm beyond proud of him for it. Guitar playing isn't part of the life he is building for himself.
If he'd brought the guitar with him, I'd have no real interest in getting it back. But that isn't the case. He doesn't play anymore so I'm taking it back.
Would it have been nice if he returned it? Sure, but I'm not sweating that in the least.
I'm going to take the guitar back.
My nephew doesn't play anymore.
So, you have the guitar back now and everything is still good with your nephew I assume.I am going to take it back...at Thanksgiving...
My nephew is a good kid. He know the guitar has always been a loan. He doesn't play anymore so I'm taking it back.
Yep. He was really surprised and embarrassed I didn't have it.So, you have the guitar back now and everything is still good with your nephew I assume.
Well that's a lot different story than the know-it-all creeps in this thread were fabricating for you. It's nice you two were able to spend some some together.Yep. He was really surprised and embarrassed I didn't have it.
Turns out he asked his dad (my brother) to give the guitar back to me almost three years ago. My brother kept it. Heck of a guy, my brother.
lol, that's what brothers do...aren't they annoying LOLYep. He was really surprised and embarrassed I didn't have it.
Turns out he asked his dad (my brother) to give the guitar back to me almost three years ago. My brother kept it. Heck of a guy, my brother.
An excellent scheme, all the same!Disregard diabolical scheme above...