I feel $#!++¥ and I may regret this. Though I doubt it. I took a 4 hour drive up to spend the weekend with an old friend yesterday for his birthday. We did our apprenticeship together and met about 13 years ago. Great night last night. Had way too much to drink and was planning on a bit of the same again tonight... He's recently given up his daily grass habit which he's proud of and i am too (he definitely has because it was that bad he couldn't make through a few hours without playing a few solos on the Gatorade saxophone) but had lost his job a few months earlier because of failed drug tests. Anyway. I brought him up some nice beer glasses for a gift. Enough beer to get us through the weekend and then some. We went out today to watch an AFL game at a pub which he asked if I could pay for lunch and beers as he was short - no probs he's not working. Turns out that was a pretence for him to get on the poker machines at the venue (his other long time vice) after he took out money he neglected to mention he had before I'd payed for everything else. So we come home. Drink a ton of beers, watch some classic concerts and film clips on TV and have a good BBQ steak dinner. A great night by our humble middle age standards. I'm passing out in front of the TV and he starts with the whole "I need to borrow $200 it's my birthday and I'm good for it routine" at first I resist - I know he's only going to blow it all on the pokies tonight which he freely admits. We've both been through rough patches during our friendship. He's paid my way and I've paid his. No ones ever asked for a cash handout and definitely not to pay for a habit I finally give in, transfer some money and internally say my goodbyes to our friendship. Not looking for validation, just needed to write it down to get it off my chest. Hope this all came out making sense. As I said I have a good beer buzz on.