This aligns with my experience. 12ms of latency was not a problem for me.Quick update re: my earlier post about guitar => wireless => modeler => active monitor => air => ears. Without the wireless, no issues. With wireless, major distraction. I was maybe 10 feet away from the monitor. The modeler's latency was ca. 2.8ms, monitor .65ms, TOF ca. 8.8ms. Total latency w/o wireless - approximately 12.25ms.
I just measured the latency of my wireless; it's 5.0ms, and adding it definitely took me across a perceptual threshold. Ergo, I'm OK with ca. 12ms latency, definitely not OK with 17ms.
You may try another experiment. Keep playing with the 17ms latency. See if you can get used to it if you keep playing for awhile. Time yourself to see how long it takes for you to adjust and get used to 17ms of latency. You may feel like you never get used to it.
In my past experience, playing with 20ms of latency got easier the longer I continued to play. But, each time I sat down with my DAW with 20ms of round trip latency, I would feel disconnected and I’d have to play for awhile to get back in the swing of it. I felt like the longer I played, the less it bothered me.