She doesn't like you playing in a band. Time away from the family is her excuse. She means her. I'm betting it's her insecurities that are the main influence of said stance. I could be wrong. Then you state that she phased out your music rooms in the new home. Rooms , as in more than one? Why don't you have a space in your own home? I'm taking her actions as she feels she can/has exterminated "the threat". There are only two choices. Live with or live without . None of us can help you with that decision.