Discussion in 'The Pub' started by sausagefingers, May 27, 2019.
It happens. Don’t give up.
It happens, until it doesn't happen anymore. You'll get there, and it DOES get easier
Just an edit to say: I think you realize, of course, that it doesn't happen on its own
I was thinking about this thread this morning.
A slip up is not a bad thing if you realize it is exactly what it is. A slip up.
Tells me you're human. Tells me you know what needs to happen and you're working on it. So keep working on it. You're doing fine
I've never had a problem with drugs and alcohol but I was a fairly heavy smoker. It took many attempts to quit. Some were feeble and some were in earnest. Eventually I did it. To this day I still have dreams where I bum a smoke or buy a pack and feel totally disgusted with myself. But each time, before the dream ends, I tell myself that I had quit for however many years once and I can do it again, but this next time will be even longer.
Different but it took three “quits” for me to kick cigs.
Sir, you are an inspiration. Thanks for that.
One does not plan to be addicted, one slips into it and finds oneself there. How did this happen?
Just quoting again. Rough day.
Any time one "slips" something can be learned. Mistakes are much less important compared to what we do to resolve them.
Continue your battle and yes rough days are part of it.
Wishing you the best!
That was my experience too on my 1 visit to AA, so I quit on my own. While it worked for me I don't necessarily recommend it to others. I've since gone to AA several times with others long after it was a moot point for me.
You've got to find and do what works for you! But if you don't like this path or that path for this reason or that reason, and keep slipping, then maybe you need something you can't slip with like an in-facility 30 day program.
Cheering for your success Sausage!
No apologies necessary.
Everyday you don't drink is a success, relapsing is a normal part of recovery so don't put that pressure on yourself.
Just take it one day at a time.......
Interesting article from Sunday's paper.
I'd recommend heading to a local Celebrate Recovery or an AA meeting. The biggest goal is to see and the underlying reasons your drinking and then face the challenges of the emotional weight associated with that. If you need support pm me I do not have an issue with drinking myself but I have seen many people healed from it and may have some further advice to share I would like to keep private.
I also think the biggest thing is your not a screw-up things in your life caused you to imbibe at a high level. You can resolve those things and let the bottle go. Be very careful who you share this struggle with most people can't understand and may cause much undo hurt and pain to you. Be very careful who you extend trust to make sure the people around you watch the movie My name is Bill W. So they can understand this isn't you deciding to drink. Just like someone sick with Cancer you have a dis-ease except in this case their is no magic pill other than community. Being around people who have overcome this will serve you so well in the journey. Remember everyone really cares for you people who don't care don't say anything trust that even tho it's embarrassing and painful right now they do have your best interest in mind! You are not alone in this you have what it takes to overcome this!
Oh, let’s make it a meeting.
At a meeting, I heard this gem:
Alcoholic 1: did you hear? There’s a new drug. You take one pill and it cures your alcoholism. You’ll never drink again, no more cravings - done. And, no - it doesn’t cure you by killing you. It just cures it.
Alcoholic 2: whoa, that is incredible. What if you take two?!
If one is good two is Twice as Good!!!
I can't even count how many times I slipped before something finally clicked and I was able to make it stick. Even after rehab I had about a six month period where anything could happen, and it was a daily struggle to stay the course (and I wasn't always successful!). Then one day, it simply just happened. Don't know why, don't know how, but all of a sudden it wasn't a battle anymore.
You can do this. If I could make it happen, you most certainly can as well.
One day I just decided drinking everyday was wasting my life away.....stopped drinking and smoking that day and only drank one time after that when I got into a bar room fight and needed a few to calm down then never again.
Smoking was a lot harder to quit than booze...
i think "slips" are really the only way you can learn. that can be a real slap in the face, and make you think "oh yeah, that's why i quit in the first place". a better lesson than you'll get from someone with years of sobriety repeating the same mindless cliches over and over.
Something else that doesn't get as much attention is the fact that sobriety requires a fairly significant lifestyle change. Not just the drinking part, but being aware of the things in your life that have come to be associated with drinking (AKA "triggers"). It could be a major change, such as disassociating yourself from drinking buddies, or it can be seemingly trivial things like rearranging the furniture so that your favorite place to sit and drink is no longer there.