So, I'm telling a co-worker (who rarely goes to the movies) about the poignant ending of Ryan, in which the dying Capt. Miller tells Ryan, "Earn this...earn it." And she got angry and said, "Oh great--just give the poor kid a life-long case of 'survivor guilt'!!!!" I tried to counter by explaining the great sacrifice that Capt. Miller and his men made; first, by finding Ryan, and THEN, by deciding to stay and help defend the bridge. She was having none of it, and couldn't believe I was even trying to see it my way. Question: is she right?