speaking of name calling

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  1. Dave Shoop

    Dave Shoop Member

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    I always had an aversion to calling my wife's mother Mom. It just didn't seem right to me. I have one mother, my Mom. I just couldn't call my wife's mother Mom. I felt funny about it. I kind of felt bad and it wasn't meant to diminish my love and respect for her but she isn't my Mom.

    I wouldn't even consider calling her by her first name either.

    You can go years and years and years without ever being in a position where you would need to make a choice.

    Do all of you call your mother in law Mom ?
     
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  2. Stratonator

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    I don't. I feel that it'd make her feel uncomfortable.

    I love and respect her tons. One of the best people I've ever met and she feels attached to me as well. Yet, I can't picture her embracing the idea of me calling her mom.

    All 3 daughters married. None of the guys called her mom. I was the last one to join the family. Would seem odd and a bit jarring if I were to break that tradition and start calling them that.
     
  3. armadillo66

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    for a long time I called her "that crazy bitch"
    but affectionately I call her "Ma" with my best hillbilly twang in my voice
     
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    Nope, I call my MIL by her first name.
     
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  5. T Dizz

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    yep, same. I never got that.. I have 1 Mom. :dunno
     
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  6. Stratonator

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    Think it comes from being accepted into the family. They call you son just like you call them mom and dad.

    Nice sentiment but only works if both parties are OK with it. I just call them by their first name.

    I even call my own parents by their first name! Did that ever since I was little. Asked my mom what that was about and she told me that she got REAL tired of hearing me say "MOM!" in that whiny voice kids have and after a few years of that, she exploded and said "Call me anything but mom!" So I started calling her Diane instead. It stuck. Love my mom. :)
     
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    I call my mother in law by her first name, but I don't think that was her first choice. When I first married her daughter, she used to sign emails with "Love, Seattle Mom" (she lives in Seattle). I couldn't get used to calling her "Mom," so I never did. I hope that doesn't disappoint her, because I really do love her.

    Speaking of...In laws coming to lunch in 15 minutes...better get ready.
     
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    I call my MIL Mummy or Baba(thats how she wants to be known to the kids.)

    She calls me "my son in law".

    Like you, I only have one Mom.

    My FIL, I'm still not sure what to call him so I mix it up or mumble his name. Again it's just easier to call him Dido like the kids do.

    He calls me by my name.

    On the other hand, my wife calls both of my parents Mom and Dad. Or Grandma or Grandpa depending on the context.
     
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    You could always call her, SM for short. :D
     
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    Yep. I call them mom and dad. We're close. They like it.
     
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    Would you call your mother in law "honey"?
     
  12. Dave Shoop

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    lol, not sweet thighs either.
     
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    There are those who address their own parents using the parent's given name.
    That seems a bit odd to me but if both parties approve, I guess it flies.
    I addressed my in-laws by their first names.
     
  14. Chris Pile

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    Not married here, so I don't have to worry about it.
     
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    For years I've called my MIL by her first name, but since my father-in-law died about a year ago I sometimes call her "Ma." She seems to appreciates it. Sometimes it's the little things.

    Peace,
     
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    I didn't even call my stepmother Mom. I'm old and don't have any living parents in law.
     
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    I think it's a little different with in-laws as opposed to steps, but perhaps's that's my perspective. There wasn't a chance I was going to call my stepmother (either one) mom. I actively disliked my dad's second wife (I was a teen) and I was in my 30s when he married #3.

    My mother-in-law is the only living parent for my wife and I.

    Peace,
     
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  18. rangerkarlos

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    I called mine Millie.

    I'm an in law. They call me Karl.

    Or grandpa. There's that factor comes into play.
     
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    We called her Nonna - she was eye-talian.
     
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  20. Sam Karnatz

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    Would you like honey in that, Sugar?...Or do you prefer sugar, Honey? (I was raised in the South...)

    In-laws by first names. Anyone who stepped into my Mama's shoes would surely explode.
     

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