Discussion in 'The Pub' started by rhinocaster, Jan 15, 2015.
where a member says, "You know what my wife noticed about the band?"
You should have recorded it in doubly.
How tight the guitar player's pants were?
I hate when that happens.....you can't ignore it but you don't want to encourage it, either.
Or "hey maybe my wife can sing backup"
Did she bring everyone's astrological charts to the gig?
Seriously, that is the worst. Every guy who is married/involved is going to be around his woman most of the time. She's going to have an opinion. She's not going to keep it to herself. He is going to take it to heart, or at least have to pay attention to it. She's going to ask "Did you tell the guys what I thought about XYZ? What did they say?" He's going to have to have an answer.
The problem is that the guy saying those words is the only one who is going to care *at all* what his wife thinks about the band. And he will probably care a lot. And no one else will likely care at all.
But you have to discuss it anyway.
I'm so curious!
Never gonna happen in a band I am in. Period.
I think we need to make sure and point out this is in no way derogatory to female musicians but simply observations about wives of musicians and how they can _____ with a band.
This is usually the end result.
Over the holidays I went to a jam at a friends house with a couple new guys, and one of them (keyboard player) brought along his "significant other"... and I mean she was truly a significant other — drunk, large, loud and obnoxious. We hadn't been jamming even an hour before she started yelling "Marshall Tucker" and "Stormy Monday" while we were playing.
Needless to say we're not jamming with the keyboard player any more.
Actually, my wife usually has the most constructive criticism. She'll say the stuff nobody wants to hear but everybody knows is right. She's not a musician and just looks at it from a listener/viewer perspective.
she made me type that
"but she's an established artist".
I'd listen. Then think if it sounded right. Then, if it may be a good idea for some change that might make us better kick it around with the rest of the band, ask people that come to our gigs what they thought, people I trust.
If it was a nutty idea, I'd let it go. Ideas and feedback are always welcome, I judge them by the content, not the source. Well...a little by the source maybe, but mostly content. Gfs and wives of band members have pointed out things...and keep in mind, it's a woman. You want women to enjoy the show unless it is a musical style that is mostly male followers.
It generally involves their man and the spotlight....
But it's okay to get all serious TGP on it!
I've played in bands with female musicians, their husbands can be VERY meddling.