Would you donate to a "Go Fund Me" account if....

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  1. wahfreak

    wahfreak Silver Supporting Member

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    My wife's friend from work came along with us on a recent trip to Thailand. My wife thought it would be fine. We didn't know much about her except that she liked to experience new things and cultures so we figured why not. Turns out I didn't care for her very much but my wife has to work with her so I tried to keep cool.

    They both work at the local casino and my wife would mention how this girl's boyfriend (26 yrs old) would come in and spend $500-1000 per hand at blackjack. My wife would try to figure out what he did for a living where he could spend that kind of money on a regular basis at the casino. She was told that he is in "legal marijauana" growing in CA but he comes back here to visit 6 months out of the year.

    I didn't believe it. Well, Friday night this guy was murdered (shot in the head) while sitting in his car on the worst side of town. He has a record of mostly minor crimes, the worst was resisting arrest. Another guy in the car was shot but not killed.

    The girlfriend has opened a "go fund me" account to help pay for his funeral.

    Now I left that type of lifestyle years ago and have been sober for over 25 years so my view of this might be slightly skewed by that fact.

    If you were my wife would you donate? If so how much?
     
  2. newking70

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    wouldn't his next of kin be resposible for the funeral?
     
  3. Ampedusa

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    Sure, maybe $10-$20
     
  4. crambone

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    Throw her a few bucks. You don't have to approve of his life choices but helping her out in her time of need would mean a lot to her.
     
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    "... $500-1000 per hand at blackjack..."

    they should be able to make ends meet without my assistance.
     
  6. Jiffy_Jeff

    Jiffy_Jeff Playin Tunes and Having Fun! Silver Supporting Member

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    I wouldn't donate anything.

    Sorry for the loss but they need to figure it out.
     
  7. popinvasion

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    Go fund me and similar concepts of online begging is just pathetic imo.
     
  8. morlll

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    I wouldn't give anything unless it was a really good friend.
     
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    Well, the legal MJ industry is anything but. There are still many shady characters, not necessarily the guy, but people who they are competing with.

    And the problem is that the wife is a "friend" and colleague of the deceased's girlfriend. So with the go fund me thing, it would be obvious if she didn't donate. So is that relationship important, and how much is it worth. It's not about the dead guy, but the girlfriend.
     
  10. Greentone

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    Agreed. I refuse to have any part of this E-Panhandling nonsense that is going on now.
     
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    Lame.

    Sorry for your lot.
     
  12. rspencer

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    I'm guessing it was the shooting on 29th Street. Rough part of town, for sure.

    I'd be willing to throw some in for the girlfriend's sake. She's your wife's co-worker.
    And regardless of how much he had coming in, if he was dropping that kind of cash per hand,
    she might not have much left over.
     
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    No way. He could have planned for that in advance if he cared given it was not unlikely it would end this way. Easy money is never easy.
     
  14. 80/20_Bronze

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    At 25 I didn't have life insurance or a way of paying for final death fees.
     
  15. harmonicator

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    Some good friends of mine relocated their band to Portland a little over a year ago. The bass player is a luthier and woodworker. He was doing something on a sander or piece of equipment and mangled his fretting hand real bad, all chewed up with tendons cut and everything. His wife started a Go Fund Me because he cannot work, and workers comp only pays so much. Can't play shows with the band either. I donated to that.

    This BF connect of the casino chick you just met/don't like. I personally wouldn't donate to this dude.
     
  16. habanaerosmith

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    Unless it's a clear-cut political situation--i.e the coworker either currently has, or in the future could have, leverage over her at work--I wouldn't touch that sh*it with an 11 foot pole.
     
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    I would stay clear of contributing any type of money for something like this...Just my 2 cents. This thread also illustrates one of the many reasons why I keep it strictly business and professional at work. Once the lines cross, people start to feel "obligated" been there, done that.
     
  18. pickaguitar

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    Sure I would...I like the concept as I think helping others is a good thing
     
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    I have a few "friends" (I use that term very loosely) who have started GoFundMe drives to pay for apparently well-meaning things to an outsider. Observing the way they live their lives and their complete irresponsible abandon for financial planning, I wouldn't give them a cent.

    One of them, after doing one of these drives very successfully (for adoption money) bought a brand new truck and humble-bragged all over Facebook. Disgusting. Call me a cynic, but I'm not touching that site.
     
  20. Peteyvee

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    Live by the sword, die by the sword...let his relatives pay for it or let the county put him in a pauper's grave. He signed up for it...
     

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